Your val­ues, tastes and sen­si­bil­i­ties are push­ing (or being pushed) beyond the beyond today. Venus is what you val­ue, what you want for your­self and what you wish to share with anoth­er. Uranus is the awak­en­er, the unex­pect­ed vis­i­tor, the path not (yet) tak­en. Cou­pled with Uranus, Venus is usu­al­ly delight­ed by the thrills of dis­cov­ery and surprise.

But this is a square (a chal­lenge) and you may find today that your dis­cov­ery is unset­tling, the sur­prise is upset­ting. There is like­ly to be a shock about a rela­tion­ship and it may seem to come out of nowhere. What is the chal­lenge that you are con­fronting? It seems that either you have “had it” with anoth­er, or they with you. You feel that you can­not be your­self with them, or they feel they must break free of you. Why, what is real­ly going on?

The chal­lenge (which, of course, is an oppor­tu­ni­ty) is to under­stand, rec­on­cile and so inte­grate the two truths that Venus and Uranus are now divid­ed over. Venus rul­ing val­ue, attrac­tion and love seeks to bind self and oth­er togeth­er through what is shared. But Uranus is assert­ing the prin­ci­ple of inde­pen­dence, orig­i­nal­i­ty and free­dom. The sit­u­a­tion is that either for your­self or the oth­er, that there is the feel­ing that either too much has been sac­ri­ficed or not enough offered for the rela­tion­ship to work.

The con­flict seems to be whether to be in a rela­tion­ship or whether it is bet­ter to be free (to be one­self). It may seem to come to that: Rela­tion­ship or Free­dom. But real­ly that is a “false choice”; there is no Free­dom out­side of rela­tion­ship, there is only being alone. And there is no healthy rela­tion­ship with­out Free­dom; because true free­dom is not “free­dom from” it is the “free­dom to be”. The chal­lenge you (and they) face is how to cre­ate a bet­ter expe­ri­ence of self and relationship…and that requires, as always, greater self-knowledge.

Do not see or frame the chal­lenge as a choice between rela­tion­ship or free­dom. The chal­lenge is take the path of syn­the­sis, that both Venus and Uranus must be hon­ored. You must be true to your val­ues (Venus) and so love your­self; and those who love you will wish for that too for they will share them with you. You must express your indi­vid­u­al­i­ty (Uranus) and so ful­fill your des­tiny; and those who love you will want that too for they too wish to ful­fill themselves.

A healthy rela­tion­ship will grow with this align­ment; you will each dis­cov­er some­thing more about your­self in and through the con­flict with one anoth­er. But if there is not enough com­mon val­ue, or enough appre­ci­a­tion and space for indi­vid­ual expres­sion, well then there will be a more sig­nif­i­cant change in the nature of the rela­tion­ship so that each of you may con­tin­ue your journey.

Cel­e­brate the sur­prise of today…it is the spark that lights your path of self-dis­cov­ery as you become the becoming…together.